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3/02/2006

BORROWING BRIAN

Brian and I married sisters, very attractive intelligent sisters way out of our league. So we're brothers-in-law connected by wives we don't deserve. But Brian and I are also partners in a booking agency through which all my shows are funneled. He's the voice on the other end of the phone and the hands on the other end of the internet begging you promoters, I mean asking you to please book me to speak or sing for your city, school or church. And Brian road manages me, traveling with me for company and help of every kind, walking promoters through riders, explaining why we need room temperature water and not iced water, diplomatically asking the sound man to turn the vocal down a little and making sure I get where I'm going in one piece physically and spiritually - and on time. And Brian is my co-pastor at ikon where we take turns teaching twenty-somethings and each other. There he not only counsels and teaches with me but he also handles everything administrative, everything relating to time or money - two things my brain has a hard time wrapping itself around but which Brain's brain seems engineered for. And in addition to all this he is my kids' uncle and my closest friend of eleven years and my personal teacher though we're equals.

And all this has me thinking this morning about how I'm a better person, however that's defined, because of the people I'm living in close relationship with. My community. My wife, Brian, his wife Amy, mentors, parents. I think it's of utmost importance not to do life alone, to have someone there thinking different thoughts than me, validating my own thoughts, lovingly, humbly sharing most everything in life with me and asking me, demanding me to do the same with them. Do you have a partner, a spouse, someone who makes you better, who fills in the gaps in you and loves you as you are enough not to let you stay that way?

Until you find someone you can be yourself with daily and face to face, you can virtually borrow one of my someone's. For starters go here to read what Brian and I have been talking about these days and here for more. Then find someone of your own. How? Maybe you just start by being that someone to somebody else. Maybe we first need to admit we'd be better off with that kind of someone in our life, that we really aren't our best alone.

6 Comments:

Blogger Stephen said...

I agree 100%. Good post. Community is an oft-overlooked part of the Christian life. We have to have people in our lives who will help us, challenge us, encourage us, rebuke us, and just be there with us.

3/02/2006  
Blogger Mustard Packet Pelter said...

*jumps up and down claping* YEAYYYY WE LOVE BRIAN!!!! WOOHOOO!!

He's the most perfect person to write an email to. He's one of those guys that'll get back to ya ASAP. Amazing the people that God brings into our lives huh? :)

3/02/2006  
Blogger Kat said...

I think that my all time favorite quote is appropriate here:

"Oh, the comfort -- the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person -- having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away."

-Dinah Maria Mullock Craik

3/02/2006  
Blogger Shaun Groves said...

That's beautiful, Kat. thanks.

3/02/2006  
Anonymous Lu said...

When one of my friends died of breast cancer late last year, it caused me to reflect on this topic as well. I wrote a post called, My She Community, as one way to express my gratitude for the blessings God's poured over me in the form of my amazing (and constantly growing) community. God is good, isn't He!

3/02/2006  
Blogger NerdMom said...

I totally agree that community and fellowship is important. God desires fellowship and that is why He is triune. To steal from my loving husband(NerdDad). Because God is perfect God is who He desires to be(Triune). All through the Old Testament "fellowship offerings" were given. There is also the role of the Church in Acts. To support and lift up one another. Frankly I can study alone (or on a computer) that is not why I go to church. That said I am blessed with my husband and also my best friend Sara over at Reckless Abandon. They both will call me on my junk and love me no matter how big an idiot, or baby, I am. People like them are my prayer for my kids.

3/03/2006  

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