DATING MY WIFE
Truth is you never stop dating. They don't tell you this when you get married, and maybe that's why so many couples stare at each other silent in restaurants by the time they're forty. I don't know. I do know that dating my wife, asking her out to lunch or to a movie or whatever she's hinted not-so-subtly about wanting to do, helps us stay attached to each other.
People keep learning and changing and growing their entire life - or I suppose so. Like hair and fingernails on cadavers, even the stiffest most inactive people I've ever known can't help but be pushed and prodded forward and back, side to side, by the living around them. And how do two married people keep up with each other's changes when this forced evolution occurs - especially when both are busy changing diapers, running errands, soft rocking, taxiing kids here and there, churching, working, and, um, blogging? Life moves fast and it's easy to miss each other in the blur of activity and wind up only spending time together at the end of our busy days - sleeping butt to butt in a King size bed. Isn't it? Am I alone on this?
So I'm dating my wife today. Baby sitter gets here in a few. We'll go out and try to act as in love as we are - try to not think about what we're making for dinner or where I'll be this weekend, when the water bill's due or whether we're messing our kids up by leaving them alone with a sixteen year old for the day.
It's the only way we've found to keep learning and growing together and not apart.
So, no more blogging today. I have a hot date.
People keep learning and changing and growing their entire life - or I suppose so. Like hair and fingernails on cadavers, even the stiffest most inactive people I've ever known can't help but be pushed and prodded forward and back, side to side, by the living around them. And how do two married people keep up with each other's changes when this forced evolution occurs - especially when both are busy changing diapers, running errands, soft rocking, taxiing kids here and there, churching, working, and, um, blogging? Life moves fast and it's easy to miss each other in the blur of activity and wind up only spending time together at the end of our busy days - sleeping butt to butt in a King size bed. Isn't it? Am I alone on this?
So I'm dating my wife today. Baby sitter gets here in a few. We'll go out and try to act as in love as we are - try to not think about what we're making for dinner or where I'll be this weekend, when the water bill's due or whether we're messing our kids up by leaving them alone with a sixteen year old for the day.
It's the only way we've found to keep learning and growing together and not apart.
So, no more blogging today. I have a hot date.
posted by Shaun Groves @ 6/02/2006
9 comments
9 Comments:
Aww. Good for you, Shaun.
Christi, you really need to delete your comment and email Shaun. Everyone can see your address and that's not safe.
Shaun, you're not alone on this one. I feel at times that Ken and I have a big disconnect going on when he gets busy at work or when the kids and I have have many evening activities. We go to bed at night (or he's asleep in the recliner when I get home) and I realize I haven't even talked to him that day. We make sure we put on the brakes & plan some alone time within the next couple of days. I don't like that disconnected feeling. It's important to keep dating when you're married. I hope you and Becky have a great time!
WOOHOO YOU GO SHAUN!!! Pull that romantic charm out! That's great. Wish more married folks would do things like that. Total vital thing in a marriage to keep each other..romanced.
you're the best ever.... i wish i was like you.
yay!!! enjoy your couple time!!!
It's true. It is very easy to live in the same house day after day, and see each other, but never really spend quality time just focused on one another, to the complete exclusion of everything and everyone else.
I have a hot date with my wife tomorrow afternoon/evening.
Groovy. :-)
My husband and I had dinner together last night. That's the most time I've spent with him all week! He works nights (for the last 5 months) so he sleeps during the day. Not so bad until last week when school got out which means I now spend a lot of time going telling the kids to be quiet so their dad can sleep. I'd hate to think of him falling asleep under a jet!
Anyway, great dinner, wonderful, adult conversation and no kids' menus!
Beth
Sure hope you guys had fun. :-) And, yes, missing each other in the blur can happen before you realize it. But less likely to happen with "hot date night (or day)" being kept alive by both of you. :-)
I was born almost 6 weeks ago and a couple of weekends ago, my grandmommy came over to the house to stay with me while my parents went out on a "date". Even though I missed them, I hope they keep this up because I like it when they love on each other. I think that they want to do that and will try hard to keep dating each other even though I'm around now... ;)
EJC
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